The lover’s dilemma. Two people are in love. One partner experiences the love they share as beautiful, satisfying and everlasting. The other partner experiences the love as comfort after a broken heart, a solution to pass time. Both realities are right, both exist. Neither is right or wrong.
This is the understanding that allows you to enter into the grey. In this realm nothing is certain but uncertainty and the only realization is there are multiple realizations all existing simultaneously.
Please put down your books.
You know, the one’s you have been collecting throughout the years. Steve Harvey’s “Think Like a Man, Act Like a Lady and “Why Men Love Bitches!” Just to name a few. Sure, pretending to “act,” a certain way to land a man or a woman because of your overall sense of inadequacy these books initially make you feel, is an approach that has played itself out and has resulted in an ever-increasing divorce rate and a huge desire to be single for most people who can’t tolerate the games.
It’s an obvious lose-lose, which is exactly what these self proclaimed love gurus want.
They keep writing the books, you keep losing, so you keep buying the books because of your nefarious desire to win. Your naivety in thinking love can be taught.
The game is sold not told, and you bought it. Literally.
If your measurement for love and relationships is winning and losing, you must be in sheer agony. With that metric system, you lose more than win. Try measuring love and relationships with growth, humor and self evolution.
Before using a control tactic to manipulate a relationship to go your way, before you engage in an argument, think about science. 2 realities can exist at the same time so what is the use of arguing?
It’s impossible to be angry because truths come in multiples. The selfishness of believing that your perspective is the only perspectives dies a beautiful death. This is the subatomic, scientific approach to relationship analysis.
Love is a superposition, it’s simply quantum physics. It means several things, for several people all at once.
There is over 6 billion people on earth and each see the world with different eyes, yet we are bombarded with generalizations regarding love and relationships in society, books, movies and religion. You are as unique as your fingerprint and so is the love you give to another.
What does superposition mean?
Superposition is a principle of quantum theory that describes a challenging concept about the nature and behavior of matter and forces at the sub-atomic level.
The principle of superposition claims that while we do not know what the state of any object is, it is actually in all possible states simultaneously, as long as we don’t look to check.
It is the measurement itself that causes the object to be limited to a single possibility.
The measurement of love defies all it’s possibilities.
You can try to manipulate love by reading a book, playing a series of mind games or simply being a jerk. However, when you do that you interrupt the flow of the universe and sabotage the organic reason you are in the relationship. Most of the time that reason is nothing but to love with all you have at that moment and accept the lesson and the blessing it will teach you.
By Janell Hihi