Ladies, when your heart is open, he will come.” Janell Hihi
You are the other and the other is you. We are attracting what we are, some call it your level of vibration others call it your energy and many refer to it as the law of attraction. When your heart is truly open you will attract those whose hearts are truly open as well.
You both want the same thing so you will immediately be attracted to each other. There will be a chemistry. The same goes when your heart is not open and you want to stay guarded as you mend your heart and work on yourself. You will attract others who also have a closed heart and are as reluctant to let you in as you are to let them in.
That settles in and you get sick and tired of meeting the same men who don’t want anything serious. This is because subconsciously neither do you. It’s a tricky psychological game we play on ourselves that can make you believe there are no good men out there. This is simply not true. You are not “Open” to receiving them. There is a saying that nice guy finishes last, well when you are really ready for love that nice guy will finish first with you because your heart is open you will be able to receive his love rather than be annoyed by it.
I call it surface love, it only goes as deep as penetration. Yes, that is explicit but it is what it is.
Two people who are afraid to receive and reciprocate real intimacy because their heart is not open, it is under construction. Typically, when someone involved in a casual sex arrangement wants more, it just means that they may be on the brink of opening their heart again but there is no guarantee that the other is ready yet.
Parting ways from a casual partner is like leaving the rest stop and getting back on the road again.
It would be irrational to think that living is staying parked in one place. Living is moving around, and you will be inspired to travel when your heart is open. And guess what? There will be several people you will meet driving on the same road. So when you are truly ready and fully open your heart you will get the love you desire. This is a universal law.
An example, if your dating you may have to cipher through those who are not on the same level. You will immediately know within five minutes of meeting them if they are seeking something shallow and your energy will repel them and there will be no chemistry. But when you’re sitting across the dinner table and you feel the energy of the man with an open heart, the chemistry will be mind blowing and your interaction incredible.
To open your heart means to accept who you are, what you have, and what your dreams and desires are and be okay with that in the present moment.” Janell Hihi
You are honest with others and yourself. Your truth is in your vulnerability. You put yourself out there and confidently tell others what you want and not let their reaction or rejection deter you from getting what it is you truly desire and deserve. Real love. Them not wanting what you want is not a blow to your self-esteem.
Vulnerability means trusting yourself.” Janell Hihi
It means you will share your real feelings, ask for what you want and know and trust that whatever the outcome you are strong enough to get through it.
You trust yourself to know that you are strong enough to get through pain. If you fall in love and it ends, you trust yourself to know you will make it through.
Vulnerability essentially is trusting yourself and the journey!” Janell Hihi
An open heart is a heart that understands that nothing is personal and past pains incurred by others were really just growing pains for the development of your divine consciousness. You are thankful to them for showing you where you needed to grow. An open heart is brave and is not a victim. It just wants to be what it is and that is love.
Be careful of those attempting to give you advice about love, saying things that are insulting to your being such as “It’s not that he does not want a relationship, he just doesn’t want it with you.”
This is not true. If he wants a casual surface relationship with you, he is avoiding intimacy, period dot com. If there is someone else in the picture, his casual relationship with you is his armor for not allowing the other person to get too close. It’s all the same, if your attracted to someone who is emotionally unavailable that just means you are too.
An open heart repels emotional unavailability. An open heart feels no chemistry with that type of person.
It is what you are! Repeat, it is what you are!” Janell Hihi
Love is a by-product of rising consciousness. If your open to love, your vibration is at it’s highest. This means vulnerability is no longer a fear, it is an invitation to give and receive love from others. Osho puts it into perfect perspective below:
Love is the greatest Zen Koan
It is painful but don’t avoid it. If you avoid it you avoid the greatest opportunity to grow. Go into it, suffer love, because through the suffering comes great ecstasy. Yes, there is agony, but out of the agony ecstasy is born. Yes, you will have to die as an ego, but if you can die as an ego, you will be born as a God.
If you don’t go into love, as many people have decided, then you are stuck with yourself. Then your life is not a pilgrimage, then your life is not a river going into the ocean; your life is a stagnant pool, dirty, and soon there will be nothing but dirt and mud. To keep clean, one needs to keep flowering. That means, keep loving.” Osho
So how do you know when your heart is open?
What you don’t want will annoy you. If you’re not ready to open your heart and be in a real relationship, any attempts by others to even suggest a relationship will be met with you by irritation and frustration. It will turn you off and you will create even more distance between the two of you.
What you do want will delight you! It will make you feel great, you won’t be irritated, you won’t have to wonder or guess. You will feel connected. You will experience mutual love and respect.
It’s that simple. Let it be your mantra.
When my heart is open, he will come.
When my heart is open, he will come.
By Janell Hihi