Deciding to drink requires preplanning regardless of the situation. If you are deciding to drink alcohol while on a date proceed with extreme caution.
First of all, if you are going on a date, you don’t really know the person that well that you are dating to indulge in a substance that can impair your judgment.
The purpose of dating is to collect data getting to know a man’s true intentions is damn near impossible if you are under the influence of alcohol.
How does alcohol affect your judgment?
If you are planning on drinking, one glass of wine is just enough! Order your drink after you are done eating your food not before your food comes. Alcohol circulates into your blood stream faster when you have an empty stomach.
Alcohol is not a cure for first date anxiety. In fact, anxiety and alcohol is a bad mix that can influence you to act in ways that you wouldn’t dare if you were sober.
Unfortunately, men are constantly judging women they first meet and who can blame them. Men can determine if a girl is close to girlfriend material within the first 2 dates easily.
Women who over drink appear to lack self-control. People who lack self-control cannot be trusted. Men only commit to women they can trust. No honest woman can say she trust herself when she drinks alcohol because she would be contradicting science which emphasizes alcohol impairs judgment.
What effect does impaired judgment have on dating?
- Sleeping with men too soon. Regret, Resentment and wondering if you even consented.
- Unwanted pregnancies
- Exposure to STD’s or Aids.
- Talking loud, obnoxiously and entirely too much!
- Overly emotional
- Aggressive and violent outburst
- Appearing slopy
- Slurring words and an inability to have a coherent conversation
- RAPE. Yes, your an easy target for nonconsensual sex/rape.
- Blacking out. Waking up the next morning not knowing what happened on your date after you had your third drink.
- Vomiting in your dates car or worse yet, vomiting on your date’s new shirt.
The blackout stage is when you’re damn near unconscious. This can lead to a binge which is so toxic on the liver and the brain it can end your life!
Blackout occurs when the brain fails to create new memories.
Blackouts are another important effect of alcohol on the brain. Like alcohol’s effect on other parts of the brain, it slows the activity in an area called the hippocampus that is associated with forming new memories and recalling memories.
When alcohol is consumed in excessive amounts it can keep the brain from forming new memories.
When the individual cannot remember what happened during an episode of drinking it is called a blackout.
In cases where the individual remembers what happened only after reminders from friends, the event is called a brownout. Both are signs of alcohol’s impairment of the brain’s memory structures.
Unfortunately, drunk dates do not allow you to probe for information about the prospective guy so the day is wasted and a do-ever date is less likely to happen.
Drinking puts up a wall and block intimacy. Intimacy is enjoying time together sober, coherent and alert so that you can get to know each other.
No one wants to be around the “Drunk Girl,” it is not a good look. Either a man will feel the need to have to take care of you like a child or he will be inspired to take advantage of you while your drunk. Each conclusion leads to a bad look on your part.
If a guy keeps insisting you keep drinking after one drink, he has ulterior motives. Beware! He wants to get you drunk so he can take advantage of you. It’s best to be very firm that you only want one drink. Ask him to stop asking you to drink or you will have to leave immediately. He should be asking you questions to get to know you instead of insisting you guys do a couple of rounds of shots.
Ask him to stop asking you to drink or you will have to leave immediately. He should be asking you questions to get to know you instead of insisting you guys do a couple of rounds of shots.
Ever notice how the words “Shots” and “Thots” rhymes?
The risks of drinking while dating is too high. Don’t take that risk, it could alter your life or end it. Many women go on dates with guys, get pissy drunk and find out they were raped the next morning. Rape is already hard to prove in our dysfunctional judicial system but if you were on a date and decided to get drunk, the judge will have an even harder time of convicting the alleged rapist.
The law is not on your side, and your reputation and safety are on the line. Don’t drink while dating a guy you barely know. I have a 3 date rule to wait and drink while on a date because of past mistakes I have made. If after 3 dates you still feel uncomfortable drinking around a guy you’re getting to know.
Be safe out there!
By Janell Hihi Copyright@2016