Selfish narcissistic men always speak in terms of what benefits YOU can provide to THEM.
The sense of entitlement the narcissistic wears like the smirk across his sadistic face compels him to believe that he is the prize and the women trying to win his heart must work to earn his love.
In his mind, he is the prize.
The same is true with narcissistic women. She believes her very presence earns her the right to be worshipped!
The one phrase narcissistic men always say that gives them away is, “So, do you cook and clean for your man?”
Narcissist want all the benefits with the least amount of commitment.
No man on earth determines whether he wants to be with a women based on how good she can mop a floor and cook chicken.
It’s utter bullshit that’s passed along the mainstream as something meaningful a women can provide a man. It’s a nice add on benefit but it won’t be the reason he puts a ring on it!
And beware of any man who puts an emphasis on a women cooking and cleaning because that’s a red flag that he’s a bit old fashioned and possibly abusive. If a women has any ambition besides baking a pie he’ll throw a grown man tantrum.
When the narcissist ask do you cook and clean?
A mentally healthy women would answer that question with the following statements:
“I just met you, I’d like to get to know you more before answering that. With all do respect, at this point that’s not relevant.”
Then she will proceed to change the subject and asking the narcissist what’s his favorite color.
You see, the narcissist will ask incredibly obnoxious questions on the very first date. It’s a part of their love bombing scam to appear really interested in you romantically as if it’s love at first sight.
At first it’s flattering but when you know the game, it’s hilarious. After you read my upcoming book How to Defeat a Narcissist you’ll be well equipped to handle every interaction you have with a narcissist.
A domesticated women the narcissist doesn’t have to marry is the perfect prize to him.
If for some reason he does get married, he will definitely push a prenuptial agreement even if he makes less then his fiancé. Narcissist are afraid to be vulnerable and fully give themselves to another. The possibility of a women receiving half of his crumbs is unbearable to the narcissist. Although they work hard to play the loving and romantic boyfriend role. It’s all an act! The narcissist shows his true face when it’s time to get down to business and sign paperwork.
The number one question narcissistic women ask without any commitment to being in a relationship with a man is “My car note is due next week, I need help paying it. Can you help me please?”
Narcissist want benefits as soon as they bless you with their presence! A debt is owed from you to them whenever they answer your text, show up for a date or laugh at your jokes.
“We are to give (and take) true love without falling into the narcissistic habit of only trying to take it in.”
By Janell Hihi @copyright 2018