Aries: The Most Intriguing Sign of The Zodiac

I’ve never met an Aries that didn’t impress me in one way or another. Amazingly intelligent, assertive, courageous and incredibly insightful and intuitive… I’m always in awe.

Aries has that something! That “it” factor! Being an Aquarius I am a very cerebral person and Aries is the only fire sign that completely captivates me intellectually. Although there isn’t much intimate chemistry between Aries and Aquarius I’d enjoy being a business partner, a friend or in a group or team setting with the innovative genius that is Aries.

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I am not blind to their negative traits but I am fixated on their positive. Aries being the most authentic sign in their fire element more real than any Sagittarius or Leo I’ve ever met, trusting Aries comes naturally to me.

I love that Aries has no filter. I love that Aries are so in touch with their feelings, unlike myself that they lay it out there unapologetically with zero fucks given. I envy that.

I know Aries writers who are so unbelievably talented I often feel put to shame reading their writing. As an Aquarius, communicating feelings is an obstacle, for Aries it’s second nature, automatic and eloquent.

When Aries boldly shares their gifts with the world, the world is changed forever! It’s truly magical. When they lack confidence, and remain in a shell, the world lacks new innovative ways of thinking, feeling and seeing. The first sign of the zodiac, our designated leader, must bring forth their gifts and evolve the world.

This is why I want an Aries to be my editor. They have an innate ability to read through me and translate my inhuman writing into something normal people can read and connect with.

Always in awe with Aries.

By Janell Hihi

 

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Moon in Cancer: How to Harness Intuitive Awareness

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It’s time to stop hitting the snooze button and wake up!

Drink your cosmic coffee and sit down… its about to get real! Real emotion because the moon is in sensitive Cancer!

On the eve of this moon in Cancer, I had epiphany. I don’t want to be in a relationship.

People who really want to be in relationships are in relationships. I had to swallow the hard truth that I like the feelings that relationships bring… and I’d like to capitalize off the bliss.

I want the privelege of being loved by someone But don’t want to take the risk of being vulnerable.

vulnerability is like oxygen to relationships. I don’t want it bad enough to give into vulnerability just yet. I’ve had amazing people attempt to get close to me and I curved all of them.

I push people away because my soul and my heart doesn’t want to be in a relationship. What do you need to accept regarding the emotional dark side of yourself?

Aug 18th and 19th the moon will be in Cancer before it goes back into Leo on August 21st the Day of the Total Eclipse!

Admitband accept your emotional dark side. I had an emotional epiphany on the eve of this miraculous moon in Cancer

Allow yourself to feel very deeply on these two divine days while the moon hangs out in Cancer.

Deep within our feelings lies hidden potential untapped that can change our view on spiritually forever.

Sit down, close your eyes and allow yourself to activate your intuition and uncover your own intentions and those of others.

Be minful of psychic ties that energetically cling to you and influence you to think, say, eat and do things that will fog your brain and take you off the trail to your destiny.

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So much will be uncovered this weekend. Anger will arise within us if we are not connected on a frequency that allows us to see the picture.

People will reveal their true motives to you energetically before you can logically make sense of it.

Aries and other fire signs… Sagittarius and Leo will get so much insight it from this energy it may make them feel out of touch with reality.

Aries it’s time to step up into your cardinal greatness. The world needs your genius. Use this weekend to remove blocks that hold you back.

Its time we all trust ourselves and our own potential. Stop looking for others to validate your greatness.

Rise up!

This may cause an internal war because this deep pychic knowing will conflict with what you want to be true or real, forcing you to break through illusions.

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Some people will choose to stay sleep and ignore their nagging intuition. You can activate your 6th sense and access to the divine.

However, astrology is free will and if your not ready to see things with your third eye astrology is free will and you can keep snoozing and stay unevolved at your own detriment.

Scorpio in Jupiter is approaching and if your not walking in spirit on a frequency that emits your true purpose, that phase will jolt you into awakening whether you like it or not!

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Is Donald Trump Too Honest? The Birthchart of the 45th President.

Presidential astrology explains why the universe put Donald Trump in office at the perfect time!

Trump’s sun and moon are in opposing signs and he’s a Gemini. This means Trump is a quadruple of 4 personalities which is a bit more complicated than just being a set of single Gemini Twins.

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Don’t shoot the mercury ruled messenger. Trump represents the hidden shadow side of America that needs to come out of the closet. Below is a breakdown of his planetary aspects and birthchart.

Born: June 14, 1946, 10:54 AM
In: Jamaica, Queens, New York (NY) (United States)

Sun in 22° Gemini                                           Moon in 21° Sagittarius
Mercury in 8° Cancer
Venus in 25° Cancer
Mars in 26° Leo
Jupiter in 17° Libra (r)
Saturn in 23° Cancer
Uranus in 17° Gemini
Neptune in 5° Libra (r)
Pluto in 10° Leo
North Node in 20° Gemini (r)
Chiron in 14° Libra
Ascendant in 29° Leo
MC in 24° Taurus

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Notice how the left quadrant of his birthchart is empty. This represents a metaphorical one-sided nature President Trump is influenced by. This imbalance creates a tactless honesty no one in the world was ready for!

Politics have become a veil over the face of evil, lies, power, destruction and manipulation and what the world needs is an honest man leading us.

An honest man isn’t always a good man. I just wanted to clarify that!

Honesty can come across as brash but it is necessary to hear it for what it is rather than refuse to hear it at all. If it sounds like white supremacy that’s exactly what it is.

Trumps 10th house is in masculinity and with his Leo rising he can come off as sexist. He may say and do things that would make one believe he feels that he is superior to women.

Would you rather deal with an honest white supremacist or a Fake politician smiling in your face pretending to be your allies but are investing in institutions that oppress you?

Do you prefer the leadership of hypocrites?

A hidden enemy is harder to defeat. Our previous Leo ruled preside Barack Obama was the epitome of liberal deception. Thankfully, that bullshit has ended and Trump, the president with a Gemini sun and Sagittarius moon is telling you how it is and what it is. Regardless, if you like it or not.

Moon in Sagittarius

Trumps moon sign is in the tactless, enterprising and cocky Sagittarius. It’s no wonder Trump has no fears! He goes after what he wants and says what he wants… and with Jupiter ruling his moon sign… he often gets what he wants!

A moon in Sagittarius represents the shady salesman who tries to sell you a lemon for the price of a brand new car. Can you say “Trump University?” Donald Trump has a buffet of shady business deals he initiated in the past which is exactly why I warn people to never do business with a person who has a Sun or moon in Sagittarius.

Unless of course, you have an exceptional attorney to look over the terms. More than likely you’ll get played. Jay Z is another Sagittarius known to be a shitty business partner.

His Sagittarius moon influences him to exaggerate and exacerbate things to make them appear bigger and more successful then they actually are. How many times did Trump do this on his campaign trail? Several times!

Sagittarius have a tendency to call people out on their bullshit. They like to expose other’s hidden motives and agenda’s. Trump did a great job at exposing Hillary Clinton’s hypocrisy. Especially in regards to how she pretends to be an ally to African Americans but she supports mass incarceration and every profits very heavily from it. This is how Trump magically convinced blacks not to vote for Clinton, by exposing her for who she is.

There’s a blind faith in Lunar Sagittarians that is admirable. They simply believe that everything will work out. Not much for making detailed plans, people with Moon in Sagittarius prefer to wing it. This is exactly what are president is doing. He is a mutable Gemini sun and a mutable Sagittarius moon, and mutable signs are known to go with the flow.

Having no plans is the plan!

Sagittarius are one of the Zodiac signs who are responsible for some of the world’s most notorious serial killers. Checkout the list here!

CNN Political commentator and seasonal anchor Van “cry baby” Jones who is a Virgo, couldn’t accept the truth. Donald Trump who is un-apologetically himself is being forced to apologize to people like Van Jones who can’t accept authenticity in the political arena. Earth signs are proud supporters of fakeness. They’d rather be polite then keep it real. In their dark side, earth signs tend to sweep big issues under the rug because dealing with real issues is not somehow they prefer to do.

Lets face it. We’d rather have a dishonest, fake, politically correct president than an honest one.

I’m ready to face the reality of this harsh world and I already accepted Trump for what and who he is. He’s awakened me. And we all know awakening isn’t easy. It forces us to face hard truths about the world and go out of our comfort zones to find solutions, re-strategize and grow!

Melania Trump was born on April 26th. She is a Taurus. Not sure how she deals with her multiple personality Gemini sun, Sagittarius moon husband. It may be that he appeals to her materialistic side which can be a huge downfall for Taurus. In addition, Taurus also have a tendency to want to the finer things in life in general.

Although they are more reserved and patient than Gemini’s, they have a sinister narcissistic side that resembles a sheep in wolves clothing. Basically she is a covert narcissist and he is overt. Behind closed doors they share the same values.

Uranus in Gemini

There’s probably no planetary alignment so frightening! Trumps a loose canon and full of surprises. Uranus is the planet of sudden  change, rebellion, revolution, surprises and stubborn refusal to conform with a lack of respect and disdain for authority! This explains Trumps ongoing feud with the FBI and CIA.

Uranus in his 10th house rules the internet, social media and TV. Donald a Trumps random,  unexpected and explosive tweets is a great example of the unruly, unethical and uncontrollable power of Uranus in his 10th house!

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No one really desires honesty. We want what’s safe, sugar coated and mainstream.

Unfortunately ,the mercury ruled Donald Trump has another agenda. Like Kanye West, Prince and Lauren Hill… Gemini’s march to the beat of their own drum.

Leo Rising

Leo rising explains Trumps refusal to accept his hair is a laughing stock and the size of his ego is 10 times the size of his bank account! It also gives him an abundance of unhealthy narcissism that many people detest.

Saturn in Cancer

With Saturn in Cancer the planet lies in the first of the water signs, emotional Cancer. Saturn is considered in detriment (or in difficulty) in the sign of Cancer as it naturally rules the sign of Capricorn which is opposite Cancer.

Donald Trump’s birth chart is riddles with oppositions. No wonder why he changes his mind frequently. Again, Trump was meant to be here now to awaken doormat opposition within us all. The world is in opposition and we have a president made up of planetary oppositions.

Astrologically our challenge is to bring opposites together and that is not an easy task to accomplish. It’s painful! It requires we acknowledge opposition exist in the first place and we do the work to build the bridges.

Saturn in cancer indicates deep seated insecurity hidden by false confidence. They often feel that no matter how much they accumulate, it isn’t enough. Their greed is insatiable because they tie money and possessions into their personal worth and self-esteem.

Mercury in Cancer

To say that people with Mercury in Cancer take everything too seriously and have a tendency to be oversensitive and defensive is an understatement!

They can’t separate facts from feelings. They have a great memory but only remember how that memory made them feel, not what actually transpired. This is unbalanced thinking. Again, his chart has a common theme of a one-sided nature with an inability to see things without a narcissistic or overly defensive and emotional bias.

Mercury in Cancer are known to pick up on people’s feelings while communicating. This is how Trump one the election. He picked up on the hidden feelings of America and played on that masterfully.

The brilliant slogan “Make America Great Again,” is what he perceived when he used his Mercury in Cancer intuition to listen to America’s whisper. He played on a deep seated hatred many were afraid to come out into the open and say. And this is how he won the election.

Mercury in Cancer can be very effective speakers and writers, especially if they have Leo or Gemini Suns.

Their ability to “feel out” their audience is extraordinary. Also, they are able to present things concisely, yet powerfully.

I wrote a blog on why I hate Cancers. Please Read!

Neptune in Leo

Trump has Leo written in every inch of his tormented soul. Neptune in Pluto is the lucky generation of baby boomers whose impeccable timing here on earth positioned them to be the most successful people in the world! Every monopoly is owned by this generation of people and the game is sewed up. Bill Gates, the owner of Amazon, Warren Buffet… and the list goes on an on.

These people are the fearless, greedy venture capitalist who invented the concept of CEO’s getting paid 5,000 times more than the average employee. This Neptune in Pluto capitalistic generation of wealth hoarders is the reason why the wealth gap in America is growing astronomically by the day!

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The Neptune in Leo group is the reason our politics are so corrupt, one-sided and not focusing on the REAL issues. But, hey, that’s an entirely new blog. Coming soon! Aquarius in Neptune will oppose Leo in Neptune which is exactly why millennials can’t stand the baby boomer generation. They set us up to fail. In fact, the only way will survive financially is through inheritance from them.

Mars in Leo

I feel sorry for anyone who has this much Leo in their chart. Mars is our action house, it’s what motivates us to act. Leo’s have a strong tendency to be narcissistic. Check out my blog on the Zodiac signs that are likely to be narcissist. Mars in Leo dark side is forced to act on egoic dreams and goals that benefit individual success, not humanity! The presidency to Trump is to benefit his own pockets and his own career.

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The air sign tribe (Aquarius, Libra and a Gemini) are non conformist. Don’t expect an air ruled sign to follow the steps of former politicians. We were born to rewrite the old scriptures.

We only seek to cipher through the bullshit and reveal it. Although welcome across as heartless, unfiltered and callous in most of our endeavors. I personally think air signs are horrible politicians. Libra would be suitable over Aquarius and Gemini if I were to appoint an air sign into a political office.

I don’t agree with Trumps politics but I respect his honesty and willingness to be unapologetic regarding his biases… and the zero fucks he gives.

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By Janell Hihi @copyright 2017

Mercury Retrograde August 2017: The Unresolved Past of America is Re-emerging.

 

unresolvedThis article is another aspect of the previous Mercury Retrograde article that I posted a few days ago.

The unresolved shadow of America’s dark past is re-emerging forcing all of us to fix what was never resolved: Racism in America!

There is an imbalance of justice hanging over the surface of earth demanding to be acknowledged and resolved once and for all.

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America never paid her debt to those she enslaved, murdered, raped and tortured. In fact, America has just renamed her cruelty to African American by morphing it into discrimination, mass incarceration, gentrification, economic genocide and police brutality.

The scales remain unbalanced. Things are out of order on the Karmic bank ledger and since Mercury Retrograde is in meticulous Virgo, we are forced to look at our account and make what is negative, positive.

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Karma is knocking and ugly racist are emerging to show their true faces. I am grateful that they are bold enough to come out of the closet with their racism because to fix a problem we must acknowledge that it still exist.

Racism still exist. Systematically, socially, economically and in every nook and cranny of America.

What will we do now? Will we continue to try to fix it with old solutions that don’t work. Will we pay the descendants of slaves what they are worth? A huge debt is owed and the Universe will not let it go unpaid any longer. Time to rise up. What side are you on?

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There is no black or white side. There is only the right or the wrong side. America is past due and I want my due. Justice is in reparations and the creation of new laws to protect the vulnerable against racist.

The cruelty of the past persist but will you continue to resist that this race issue, and the debt owed to those whose ancestors were enslaved, must be paid?!

By Janell Hihi @copyright2017

2017 Karmic Audit: Mercury Retrograde in Virgo is in Full Effect. Caution Advised

In the picture below, Virgo is trying to tame the lion. Not to harm him, but to tranquilize his wild ego. This is what the energy of Mercury retrograde in Virgo will challenge everyone to do!

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Mercury Retrograde started dishing out Karmic paychecks August 12, 2017 and will continue to audit our karmic payroll until September 5, 2017.

When Mercury moves backwards, you’re forced to move inward! Expect delays and setbacks and forget about meeting deadlines. It’s not going to happen.

Events and circumstances will transpire that will force you to stay at home, be alone and cultivate that much needed alone time to communicate with your higher self.

Bad things are going to happen. But remember it is how we react to them and how we grow from them that matters most!

On the Eve of Mercury Retrograde, Virginia stepped up to incite violent protest spewing hateful rhetoric. Several people were killed including law enforcement officer, members of the Alt Right and the anti-alt right protesters.

There is so much planetary activity this month. Were approaching our second New Moon in Leo which is very rare, usually there is only one per sign per month.

It’s time to look within to see if our lofty goals are coming from our ego or from our hearts? Are your goals not only going to benefit you but the world too? What’s your soul contribution. Leo energy is being challenged this month to surrender the ego to the soul.

The question to ask yourself this retrograde is: Does my life align with a higher purpose? or am I living just to satisfy the shallow needs of my ego?

 

leoWere also approaching a total eclipse of the sun on Aug. 21st, 2017 – The eclipse is in the revolutionary sign of Aquarius and the energy is heavy. The spirit of protest is well and alive and people are tired of injustice.

Is protesting in the streets working? Is it changing the world? Maybe it’s time to take a more in depth political stance. What else can be done?

This is a “Fight the Power” and “Don’t turn the other cheek” by any means necessary kind of energy. 

If you plan on attending a protest, be careful. Violence is sure to break out.

Every suppressed is boiling deep within us and exploding to the surface demanding to be dealt with.

Do you owe karmic debt? Or is it owed to you. If you’re anything like me I feel sorry for you! On the first day of Mercury retrograde I lost $120 – it just disappeared out of my pocket. I also felt annoyed, easily irritated and lethargic.

There’s too much going on in the world and each and everyone of us, regardless of our race, religion or Zodiac sign has sat around for too long being passive, inactive and complacent.

We will be forced to act in one way or the other. But you better think before you act. Karma is dishing out heavy consequences to every move we make right now.

As with every Mercury retrograde, set aside extra cash for unexpected tragic events like car accidents, replacing expensive items you lose like cell phones or iPads. Unexpected car trouble and home repairs can pop up out of nowhere.

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The ex may call if issues from a past relationship are still unresolved. Talk it out not with the intention to get back with them but to bury the hatchet once and for all. It’s time to lower coffins into graves and top it off with a fancy tombstone and be on your way!

This Mercury retrograde will cause astronomical miscommunication. Trump the jlly Gemini and Blong Yang the Unruly Capricorn, may accidentally take the world into world war 3 by misconstruing each other’s narcissistic back and forth banter.

Take caution to not react in extreme emotion or anger during this mercury retrograde because the consequences can be devastating!

Don’t seek revenge instead seek courage to change your life and remove anyone or anything that is not serving your higher purpose.

It’s time to evolve!

The Lunar eclipse in Aquarius will challenge the Leo to listen to his heart instead of his ego… Individual success is not the answer, collective success with an emphasis in the interest of humanity is what we need to see the majestic light of a new dawn!

People are thirsty for real change and the Aquarius, who proudly walks about the cosmos with an endless fountain of water pouring from her hands will happily arrive to quench our thirst!

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A mercury retrograde in Virgo can have you meticulous about every detail of your life. Beware that insomnia will be rampant as the Virgo energy forces us to over analyze every single detail of our life and the people in it!

Careful not to over-criticize. Mercury is the planet of communication ruling Virgo and Gemini and during this retrograde phase your words will have the power to destroy relationships to the point of no return.

If you feel like you’re gonna snap, walk away. Take a deep breathe and use your words to heal rather than to tear others down.

Gather information, watch and observe. However don’t make any major decisions or impulsive reactions until Mercury retrograde ends on Sept 6, 2017.

Virgo is the adult of the Zodiac so this retrograde energy will have you making life changes to get rid of childish habits that are stopping you from accomplishing goals.

You will work hard to start organizing your home, dieting, exercise and budgeting because Virgo energy demands that we be more responsible.

Jupiter Pluto Square: It’s time to even the score.

The world is suffering from a devastating imbalance of power. Now more than ever, you’ll e asking yourself what you can do to help foster change. Power struggles will erupt as the powerful fight to hold on to what they have without sharing it or giving opportunities to others. You’ve probably had enough as your day to day life is affected by ill politics. Everyone is fed up more now than ever!

Saturn Retrograde Ends:

Yes! For some reason this Saturn Retrograde had me in somewhat of a slump and it’s ending the end of August. Expect to feel less restricted and more energized to accomplish your goals. Things will look brighter if we can walk together through this dark tunnel that will challenge are fears and force us to grow.

With a total eclipse in the sign of Aquarius during Mercury retrograde and a second new moon in Leo… Be expected to feel everything and cherish it for the mere seconds you have it in your hand. As it leaves your tight grip, you will be overwhelmed with the peaceful wisdom that everything is beautiful and everything is fleeting.

Keep walking. I know it’s hard to see in the dark, but I’m here with you in the shadows.

By Janell Hihi Copyright@2017

Why Your Relationship Will Fail According to Your Zodiac Sign: Leo, Aquarius, Sagittarius.

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There is a dark side and bright side to every Zodiac sign. We all have our yin and your yang. Unfortunately, our dark side is what get’s us into life altering trouble!

It’s important to understand our shortcomings so that we can take the necessary steps to  to overcome them.

Each Zodiac sign has a lesson to learn and a hurdle that stands in the way of achieving the loving and lasting relationship they’re hearts truly desire.

Each analysis is based on each zodiacs signs gender.

Why your relationship is doomed based on your Zodiac sign:

Leo Female:

She’s the queen of the jungle. Okay, maybe not but she still wants you to treat her like royalty! She can be a bit high maintenance but don’t be fooled, she goes hard for the man she really loves!

Leo’s are the teenagers of the zodiac, that is their fixed, astrological age. Therefore, Leo’s tend to appreciate what gives them a challenge, what is hard to conquer and those who don’t treat them very well. She is tons of fun to be around and most men find it easy to give her all the time she desires of them without objection!

It’s odd isn’t it? How the Leo woman wants to be praised but she won’t appreciate at that praise unless it is very hard for her to earn. This is why she typically falls for assholes. Many Leo woman are bored in relationships with complete pushovers who give them everything they want (more than likely she is cheating on the pushover) or she is head over hills in a relationship with an abusive man who uses her in every which way he can.

Her biggest hurdle in achieving lasting love is being overly emotional, too needy, too demanding and unappreciative of the men who come into her life and treat her right. She wants a bad boy badly. She usually turns down good men to her own detriment until very late in life! Leo females need to be number one even if she doesn’t make you number one. Her entire self worth is tied to her man’s time, attention and praise.

If you give her an inch, she’ll take a mile and brutally use and bully you if she can! She can become violently jealous over minuscule perceived threats and things can get physical if her ego is bruised. Watch out, she has a temper and her temper is a huge hurdle in achieving relationship success.

Leo Man:

He calls too much, texts too much, wants to see you too much! He’s just too much. When a Leo really likes a girl he showers her with attention and puts on a show to prove his worth. He is also very argumentative. They will call you while your at work to talk shit and complain, this has happened to me on more than one occasion with Leo exes. I helplessly attract them. God help me! An argument with a Leo doesn’t end until you agree with them. They are a fixed sign.

It’s tiring to watch. He goes out of his way to be perceived as the perfect man for the first three months with objective of getting the girl he desires hooked on him. Then after the honeymoon phase it’s “Mask off.” And the selfish, narcissistic, ego maniac emerges from the fog.

Leo males biggest hurdle in achieving lasting love is his inability to keep it real. He wants to impress you, he doesn’t want an honest, genuine love connection. He’ll buy you things he can’t afford, take you to places that ruins his budget and acts as though he has to be perfect for you to fall in love with him.

But that’s not all, not only does he expect unrealistic perfection from himself, he also expects perfection from a woman. If you fall short of his fantasy of who you should be he will criticize you to no end. He may even start to cheat on you and put on a long and heart wrenching trail of events that will lead to a slow and painful breakup.

Unfortunately, Leo men know all too well that act they put on can’t be played for long. They have to come clean eventually, and when they do be prepared to be devastated.

They run game like no other, telling you everything you want to hear. Then they unveil their false self to you and tell you, “Oh, I am still married but were separated.” or “My ex is 4 months pregnant but I love you baby and I am not going back.” Just be prepared to be shocked and bamboozled. Nothing is what it seems with a Leo and his relationships will suffer if he continues to be dishonest and deceiving.

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Romantic couple. Love the boy and girl against the backdrop of a starry sky.

Aquarius Woman:

Aquarius women have their heads so far in the clouds it rebounds and lands up their ass! She’s waiting on her “Dream guy” who is the perfect friend and lover. She confuses friends with lovers. Talking about detached? I am an Aquarius woman and I just don’t get the concept of closeness. I am similar to a Gemini man. Aquarius woman believe relationships are a hindrance yet they always complain about being alone. Hmmm?

Aquarius woman is a walking, talking paradox. She wants to be seen as unique she tries very hard to be different from every other woman. She wants a man to need her but she’d rather jump in a pit full of snakes before she admits that she needs anything from her man.

She thinks vulnerability is illogical and stupid. She is too intellectual for her own good. Aquarius will sabotage her relationships because she doesn’t know how to just feel instead of thinking all the damn time.

Dear Aquarius, some things just need to be felt, not over-analyzed. Her tireless mind can turn into nagging and nagging is a toxin that poisons relationships. Nagging is man repellent but some Aquarius confuse nagging with speaking their mind… Note to self, it’s not the same!

Aquarius woman fall in love with how a man acts, his personality and charisma. She wants a man who is friendly yet over protective, nice, but has a mean streak. She wants all the extremes and everything in between. She thinks a simple relationship is settling. Aquarius must be more realistic, less analytical and stop talking so much to be successful in relationships. If she keeps running away from vulnerability she will never receive the relationship she craves.

Aquarius men:

He’s with you but not with you. Aquarius men make woman who they are committed to feel alone, even when their together, sitting on the couch watching Netflix. He’s in his own little world, which is okay but the problem is he won’t let you in!

Maybe after years and years of work, you’ll be able to get a peak inside his fantastical mind but most woman tap out and leave this lame before that happens. It just takes too long for him to open up and it makes women feel less connected and unloved. Don’t get me wrong he is definitely witty, charming and a ladies man but it only goes surface deep. He won’t let anyone, especially a woman, really get to know him thoroughly.

Aquarius men are too mysterious and too difficult. They don’t understand vulnerability and that is the biggest hurdle they will have to overcome. They are also passive, beta males who they think are too cool to pursue a woman. They confuse pursuing with chasing and too often use the friend approach to attract girls they want to have sex with. Their friendship is a fraud! They just use it because they are not assertive enough to actively pursue a woman.

Aquarius men are passive aggressive. They sulk, resent and rebel all without directly communicating the issue they have with you. They are always on social media venting.  He talks way too much! He doesn’t know what to say and what not to say and doesn’t read in between the lines. He’s nice but a bit conceited.  He thinks he’s way too amazing and he’s stuck on trying to prove just how amazing he is. He is also absurdly picky and overly critical about the woman he dates even though he looks like a troll more often than not!

They can desire a committed relationship, but still show a standoffish attitude towards it at the same time. They want love, yet can live with out. They can stay single longer than ANY other sign in the Zodiac. Facts! They are typically unstable career wise and are always selling shit through multi-level marketing and various companies they alternate between every 3-6 months!

He’s in his own world and let him stay there! Aquarius men need to embrace vulnerability instead of running away from. They need to be less passive and more direct. And they need to let women into their inner world otherwise they will stay single indefinitely. Not that they care, but I’m just saying.

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Sagittarius Woman:

She’s a freak! She’s mighty mighty, letting it all hang out! Yeah Sag females are tons of unapologetic fun! If she likes you, she’s generous with what she has and her time. She has no problem sharing but her sharing comes with a price. She is calculating. Sag ladies use their generosity to lock down yours. She believes in a favor for a favor and if you don’t reciprocate she is bound to replace your ass in 5,4,3,2,1 seconds with a man more willingly to try to please her.

She wants what she gives and like most fire signs she gives too much too soon. Damn Sag gals, I know you and this new handsome guy has been dating for only 4 weeks now, but do you really think it’s necessary to be doing his laundry, giving him a key to your house and taking care of his dog while he is out of town for work?

Fire sign ladies just do too much, in general! The Sagittarius falls in love too fast and when she realizes she chose the wrong man it’s too late, she already sacrificed her bank account and her soul for him. What a waste! The Sag ladies must understand that falling fast and hard is not how to secure a lasting, healthy relationship. Sag woman, your challenge is to take your time and fall in love gradually.

Sag women can become obsessively jealous. She wants a good looking man but she is also threatened by him at the same time! She tries to dictate his schedule, where and when he can hang out with his friends and will even intercept the relationship he has with children from previous relationships. She can be a bit of a control freak. She has to learn how to go with the flow and be patient to succeed in love.

Sagittarius Men:

He’s probably the number 1 ladies man. This man has charm, swag and manipulation unmatched by any other sign! He gathers information to use it to his benefit and believes he deserves everything from life, especially his lady. She better bow down and serve him up everything she has. All her time, sexual energy, money, resources and good looks!

He’s addicting to be around and is the center of good times, parties and he’s effortlessly the life of any party! Behind this walking, talking show biz of a man is a sadistic, cunning and manipulative liar! He will fuck with your head to the point where you believe him when he says your crazy.

Sag men need to learn to stop being so demanding! They need to learn patience just like the Sag woman does. Everything is an open buffet and you can’t always eat until your full. Boring is not a bad thing, sometimes it’s freeing to not have anything to do Sag. Chill the hell out!

Boy are they balls of high strung energy that can leave a woman completed depleted of her life force after spending a weekend with him. Sag men will use you us until there is nothing left for you to take care of yourself. They lie often and if you catch them in a lie they go from cool to crazy in a millisecond. He is a charming pyschopath and when you call him out on his bullshit, be prepared to feel the raft. Actually, I’d run if I were you!

Dear Sag men, stop lying all the time. Life is not all about who you can hustle to come up and who you can use to get the hook up. Try really and truly opening yourself up to a woman with the intent to give rather than receive.

By Janell Hihi Copyright@2017

Why Your Relationship Will Fail According to Your Zodiac Sign: Aries, Taurus, Gemini.

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There is a dark side and bright side to every Zodiac sign. We all have our yin and your yang. Unfortunately, our dark side is what get’s us into life altering trouble!

It’s important to understand our shortcomings so that we can take the necessary steps to  to overcome them.

Each Zodiac sign has a lesson to learn and a hurdle that stands in the way of achieving the loving and lasting relationship they’re hearts truly desire.

Each analysis is based on each zodiacs signs gender.

Why your relationship is doomed based on your Zodiac sign:

Aries Woman: You over do it! You love too hard too fast and sacrifice it all for the man you fall for. Love is not all or nothing. Maintaining a sense of self while embarking on an intimate relationship is your greatest challenge. You are not willing to let a man be a man. You are too aggressive, too eager and too down.

You are that ride or die chick that always get’s played in the end. The fiery Aries woman needs an alpha male who is strong willed and ambitious. Problem is she diminishes his masculinity by trying to be the provider in the relationship. Aries, fall back! As soon as a man let’s you take charge you enjoy running the ship but you slowly start to lose respect for him. Aries woman are natural bullies so she takes authority too far. You like to give your all to everything you do and that is why you are very successful in life in general. However, when it comes to love learn how to ration out the amount you sacrifice. Don’t give it all away all at once. Don’t neglect your friends or your children when you fall in love with a man.

Your biggest issue is you give too much of yourself and become resentful and very angry when it is not reciprocated. No one is willing to sacrifice themselves as much as you do, so to expect your lover to match your eagerness and unnecessary sacrifices is unrealistic. If you want to give your all, be happy doing it without expecting others to do the same. Learn a healthy sense of give and take. Don’t just give, give, and give, then explode in anger like a complete psychopath when all your tedious favors are not returned!

Aries are creative genius, and if you do not have a creative outlet, you will expect your lover to fill that void. That is not his responsibility! Maintain your sense of self by choosing what artistic endeavor moves you and stay true to it forever, regardless if your in a relationship or not. If you do not have your creative outlet, you will have continuous outburst of unhealthy, and violent rage!

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Aries Men

Like Aries Woman, this fiery, creative male Ram needs a creative outlet otherwise, he will take all his frustration out on the lady in his life. Aries men cannot compartmentalize. That is his biggest hurdle in the way of achieving lasting love. If things aren’t going well at work, he sulks, has an attitude and becomes cold and distant. He is not as verbally assertive as the female ram. He is more passive aggressive and will give his lady the silent treatment for issues that have nothing to do with the relationship.

The Aries man will shut down! This hinders communication in relationships. His partner will have to play guessing games to try to figure out why he’s mad now! It’s childish but his silence is his way of processing his feelings and he expects his woman to just know that about him and give him his space.

Her feelings about it will have to wait. Aries men are selfish like that. It is mostly about him and how he feels. Aries astrological age is the infant. They are the first born sign of the zodiac and the Aries man exudes infancy. He doesn’t communicate very well until you push the last button and he explodes with mind boggling anger. Like an infant crying uncontrollably, you better watch out! Be there like a concerned mother ready to console him and him close. His anger means he needs love and affection more than ever. He just doesn’t know how to effectively communicate it.

Aries men will ruin their relationships by lack of communication. They are very much in their heads until one of their senses are triggered, hungry, horny, playtime or envy and jealous! He may not speak much, but when he does it is precise, prophetic, eloquent and borderline genius. This man is brilliant! He may be an undercover writer, lyricist, rapper, singer, poet, or strikingly talented painter or artist. Get to know his artistic side and praise him for it, he will love you tenfold in return.

If Aries man doesn’t learn effective verbal communication skills, and a healthy outlet for anger besides being passive aggressive, he won’t find lasting love. Just short lived passionate flings.

Taurus Woman:

She’s a contradiction. At first this is exciting to men, but then it becomes tiresome and annoying down the road. She is a leader, never afraid to be the only female in a male dominated occupation. She is often in management or a teaching field where she has free reign to run the show. This seeps into her relationship and she becomes a total control freak. Dominant, possessive and overprotective!

Taurus woman leave no box unchecked as they eagerly dive in and do the work. They do the work the man is supposed to do and justify it by claiming they are so loyal. Well, slaves are loyal to their masters when they do not know they are in bondage. Taurus, loyalty is not everything when you neglect being loyal to yourself! Taurus woman want a commitment relationship but will settle for a friends with benefits or side chick situation just to remain attached to the man she fancies in some way, shape or form.

Taurus woman will overlook their man’s shortcomings, forgive too much and allow themselves to be somewhat of a punching bag just to prove how strong their capacity is to love and “stick it out” like a big girl.

I love my Taurus female friends but they rant about how their man continuously hurts them without doing anything about it. Ever. When the Taurus woman see’s the red flag, she charges forward like the bull she is with full speed, never stopping to think about what the hell she is doing. She will stay in a dead end relationship well past it’s expiration date. Know when to leave Taurus woman!

Her biggest hurdle is falling first without getting the facts. She is a slave to her senses being that she is the toddler of the zodiac sign. Tasting, feeling, touching, seeing, etc. If a man can figure out she can’t see past the physical senses, he will dominate her and make her his pet Bull. Literally!

Taurus Man:

Unfortunately, I find Taurus men irresistibly attractive. He is the epitome of masculinity yet tinder and warm on the inside once you win his trust and affection. He is emotionally strong, well disciplined, and he works very hard to maintain his toys. Work hard play hard, well even at the expense of his health and his relationship with you. Get accustomed to coming second. It’s always business first baby! If your not a super confident woman, you will find it hard to not allow his other priorities he puts over you to chip away at your self-esteem.

However, when it comes to him, you better make him a priority or you will lose him, fast! He demands your loyalty and your attention without beating around the bush. Taurus men will tell you what it is, without ever stuttering or going back on his word if he is serious about you. If he’s just fucking around with you, he’ll treat you like one of his toys, using you and then throwing you back in the toy box.

Taurus men treat relationships like a business. They just don’t know how to draw the line and turn off their CEO swag when taking a long romantic walk with their lady on the beach. If you are helplessly feminine like myself, you crave his alpha male mentality and strength until he has an angry, jealous tantrum and shocks you to the core.

How could a man so sweet, so giving and so real be so prone to anger. A Taurus man will punch a wall or throw a lamp, similar to a toddler at a grocery store whose mother put the bag of skittles back on the shelf after he was fixated on trying to open the bag and devour them.

He’s sweet and sour. Hot and cold. An addicting contradiction. His biggest hurdle in accomplishing ever lasting love is controlling his tantrums, calming his jealous tendencies and not being so blatantly honest and overly critical of his woman. He has very little tact and doesn’t know when to stop being condescending and verbally disrespectful. He can make his woman feel cherished in one instant and like complete garbage the next. Taurus men, stop switching to extremes! Stabilize your energy.

Gemini Woman:

Gemini ladies, your relationship will fail because you’re naive’ to a fault. Gemini’s are the children of the zodiac. They are easily deceived by candy, toys and false promises. Predators prey on the Gemini female because of her innocent and gullible aura.

Men are very attracted to the docile femininity of the unfiltered, say whatever I wanna say, fun loving Gemini female. She has the ability to bring men back to the playful side of their childhood they’ve long forgotten.

However, it also makes her susceptible to deception. She focuses on the bright side of everything and overlooks glaringly bright, flashing red flags! Gemini never really saw the signs, she is blindsided with happiness and joy most of the time.

When she is hurt she is really shocked and the man who hurts her is devastated because of her innocence. The Gemini woman needs to activate her intuition and look at the reality of a situation instead of just sunshine and rainbows.

Realism is what will save the Gemini female from being so naive and getting hurt repeatedly by lovers. What makes her scared of commitment and unattached to the point where she’d rather fuck around and be promiscuous is the inability to truly forgive and not hold a subconscious grudge against men in general for her own naivety.

Gemini woman are bitter for the wrong reasons and it’s always someone else’s fault when they get hurt. Her inability to take some responsibility in the dysfunctional relationships she has participated in, stunts her growth and she keeps meeting the same type of men, over and over again.  She is likely to cheat or use a man financially if she knows a relationship won’t manifest between the two of them. It’s never something for nothing with a Gemini woman, you are paying for something!

Gemini Men:

Gemini and Aquarius men are most likely to be single their entire lives and be happy living a life commitment free life!

He can’t spell commitment let alone comprehend the meaning. He is too afraid of losing freedom. Gemini men are like flies hoovering around your bed at night while your trying to go to sleep. Just buzzing in your ears and landing on different parts of your face to annoy you. They don’t really want anything serious with you, they just want to buzz around you and feed upon you until they are full and ready to move on to their next target.

Being faithful is not slavery dear Gemini man. You’re biggest downfall is that you don’t know how to stop being unruly. You can’t settle down and stick to one woman. It’s boring to you. Relationships are boring right?

No, you’re boring! You are too passive and you don’t want to put in the work. Being that you are the child of the Zodiac you want to play all damn day and only be concerned with what thrills you!

The grass is always greener on the other side. Most Gemini men have ADD and can’t focus on you or anything else. If they see a girl they deem more attractive than their wife or girlfriend they will cheat if given the opportunity. Their motto is: “You only live once!” Why should

Woman don’t take you seriously because you don’t take them seriously. You are not an alpha male like most air signs and you often confuse friendship with love. You fall for your friends and friend zone romantic interest. It’s a twisted game that is very amusing to you. Gemini men are passive and he will lie incessantly because he doesn’t have the balls to tell the truth!

The hurdle you must overcome is childishness, inconsistency and confusing friendship with love. Why should the Gemini man hold back on his indulgences just to stay faithful to you? 

By Janell Hihi Copyright@2017

New Moon in Leo July 23, 2017: See Through False Hope & Face Reality Courageously.

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New Moon in Leo July 23, 2017

The exterior of a Leo’s personality is charming, youthful, energetic, proud, friendly, and ambitious.

This New Moon will give you a surge of energy coupled with the audacity to follow your hearts desire.

Suddenly, being true to yourself will take precedence over your current circumstances, and you may find yourself mapping out an outline to take solid steps to accomplish these goals.

But don’t move along full steam just yet! Examine the interior of your plan not just the exterior of it.

Leo energy has a charming yet deceiving exterior overlay that can get you overly excited and sweep you off your feet.

Stay grounded. Look deeper within. Do not be fooled by promises, charm or false excitement.

Stay grounded, in the middle, and objective. This is the only way to be free. The only way to maintain safety when this energy can make us prey to deliberate predators.

Be honest and true to yourself. Do not be nice. Do not hold back to maintain the status quo. The partial eclipse in Leo/Aqaurius which are opposite signs, demands that you shake things up.

Leo gives the timid and idealistic Aquarius the courage to charge ahead and implement the first steps to shake up the norm and season it with change.

Your challenge is to stop being afraid.

Aquarius are incredibly intuitive, Leo is ambitious and proud. The two energies together, air and fire, can be used as your catalyst to charge ahead looking in the interior of your life’s circumstances and not being fooled by the exterior.

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By Janell Hihi @Copyright@2017

Aquarius Have a Misconception of Intimacy.

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I am known to criticize the downfalls of every sign in the Zodiac and you’d be surprised by how much hate mail I receive from various people who claim I am attacking their sign.

I also receive emails and comments from people who are in complete agreeance with my character analysis of each sign. Regardless, I haven’t clearly pointed out the flaws in my own Zodiac sign.

What the hell is wrong with Aquarius?

Aquarius is fixed and detached. This means we are stubborn and we do not easily conform to anyone or anything. This may appear as a strength but it could breed disloyalty and an inability to commit.

Speaking of commitment, Aquarius feel that if they commit to someone or something completely, they sacrifice their freedom. As an Aquarius, we always think we have to trade in our freedom to be in a relationship.

Aquarius are deliberately ambiguous in our intent because we have no idea what we want most of the time. We just want the freedom to want what we want when we want it without giving an explanation.

Did that confuse you? Well, that’s what Aquarius tend to do…. confuse people.

The lesson all Aquarius must learn is that there is a unique freedom within love itself. Love is freedom. Intimate love is not restrictive, it’s the opposite. It gives us wings.

I talk a good game, and I am aware of my dark, shadow characteristics. However, it is nearly impossible to take my own advice. I can’t comprehend my aversion to closeness, my fear of falling so deeply in love I think I will lose myself.

Aquarius are low-key obsessed with themselves. Our deepest fear is being so entrenched in love, our work, humanitarian efforts, goals, friendships and various projects will fail to be accomplished.

Aquarius doesn’t want to be lost in anything but themselves. That is slightly narcissistic.

Aquarius always remain friendly, yet objective. Open minded, but critical, adventurous but cautious.

We don’t rush to fall in love but we rush into everything else! We hate slowness. We think fast, talk fast, walk fast…

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We are the yin and the yang and there are some Zodiac signs that find that characteristic annoying, indecisive and contradicting.

We remain in the middle, unattached, refusing to take any side. Except when it comes to human rights and equality. Our passion for life and protecting other’s is always made crystal clear.

However, when it comes to love, we harbor a misconception of intimacy. I must admit, love makes me claustrophobic. I dread the responsibility of “Making someone else happy,” and I’d much rather be in a less restrictive relationship where we love each other deeply but there is more of an element of freedom. Not the freedom to cheat, but the freedom to continue to explore our true nature.

Friendship is how Aquarius love. We express our love as a friend and we recognize love only through friendship. When friendship, respect and that air freedom we need is missing, we run away from love.

Aquarius want closeness but they also want freedom. Aquarius want commitment, but they also want ample free time to continue to check off items on their lifelong bucket list.

Unlike any other Zodiac sign, we are not afraid to be alone. The problem is, we get attached to our aloneness and have a difficult time coming out of it.

Aquarius who are single for a long time will have a very hard time adjusting to a relationship.

Aquarius is fixed. We are controlling. Not overtly, but in a manipulative and secretive way. 

Aquarius make awesome sales reps and con artist. We have a mind that can read other’s almost instantly and use that knowledge for good or evil.

Aquarius are very attracted to intelligence. Good looks are great but a lack of intelligence, passion and drive is a COMPLETE turn off to Aquarius.

Aquarius hate strict schedules and routine. This makes it hard for us to stick to long term goals. We can be seen as less serious and unfocused. This is not true in most cases, we just do things our own way and in our own time. To maintain our obsession with freedom.

Other’s see us as weird. We do odd things because we truly are different. The problem is different is not always good.

As soon as we feel smothered, we retreat into ourselves. We get busy doing other things. We need breaks from boring routine often.

Aquarius astrological age is the 2nd childhood. We are close to Pisces, which is the oldest sign in the Zodiac. So, we are like the fun-loving grandparents who spoil their grandchildren rotten. We want to explore, play, nap, eat, and travel.

We are at that pre-elderly stage where we want to do all the things we couldn’t do because we were tied down raising our kids and working. It’s like we are in a mental retirement. This is what makes us artistic, genius and highly imaginative.

On the flipside, we can be cruel, judgment, condescending and overly critical like most people in their mid to late fifties. 

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Aquarius are inconsistent by nature and obsessed with constantly switching things up to keep things interesting. This is why we suck in relationships.

We want to be in love, but not so much in love that we are joined by the hip. We are cowards who run away from closeness with others. If it get’s too deep, we swim to the shore where it’s safe.

We use humor to soothe our pain. Hey, it’s better than using drugs! Sometimes we over do it with joking and don’t know when to stop. Joking when we should be serious. We like to “Appear,” as though we are not hurt, upset with the direction of our lives, or lonely. We enjoy Playing when we should be focused. Daydreaming when we should be working.

We crave change but we are fixed and stubborn. Therefore we are too comfortable in our ways at times and this stunts our spiritual growth as the war inside of continues to rage between fear and courage.

We say things we don’t mean when were angry. We have random, built up, outburst and follow that up with the silent treatment for days or weeks on in.

We repeat ourselves and talk in circles often. Many find this annoying. Especially Scorpios and Virgos. They always point that out to me.

We try to appear too aloof because we’re afraid of rejection. Aquarius will always appear overly nonchalant and casual as a shield to protect themselves from being dependent on other’s approval or affection. It’s really sad.

Please like, share and comment if this resonates with you or an Aquarius you know.

By Janell Hihi

Copyright@2017

 

 

 

 

The Narcissist Favorite Victims: 4 Most Codependent Zodiac Signs

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In a recent article, I pointed out the top narcissistic signs in the Zodiac. This article will do the opposite by listing the 4 most codependent Zodiac signs. The narcissist purposely seeks codependent people because they are the perfect victim to prey upon.

The codependent has low self-esteem, a huge need for validation and a glitch that makes them give and give while accepting very little in return. Codependents accept non-reciprocal relationships and narcissist are inherently incapable of reciprocation which makes these two a match made in heaven.

What does it mean to be codependent?

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#1 Codependent Zodiac Sign: CANCER

Cancers are excellent caregivers. They also make great parents. Their willingness to nurture those around them with love, support, and attention can allow the Cancer to easily be used, abused and manipulated.

The nursery rhyme, “Mary had a Little Lamb,” is a great example of how Cancer’s follow their love interest hopefully and blindly. Mary’s little lamb is the symbolic representation of a Cancer and how they operate in relationships. They like to revolve around their partner.

The narcissist is immediately attracted to the Cancers parental-like characteristic because the narcissist had an abusive or an emotionally unavailable parent as a child. The narcissist wants to feel loved and supported and the Cancer is the only sign who eagerly gives love and attention unconditionally.

The problem with most Cancers is that they don’t know where to draw the line. They give and give and then become resentful. They give selflessly just so they can cry their favorite line, “But I gave you everything!” The Cancer’s dark side is to be a martyr like most water signs. Cancer’s want to be the one to sacrifice it all just to complain and whine about it incessantly.

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The victim role is their favorite role. They purposely attract people into their life who will abuse them, just so they can feed their emotional turmoil and depression. Like, most co-dependents, Cancers manifest toxic relationships into their life believing they can fix the other person. This never works, and the Cancer is always hurt in the end. Never learning from their mistakes.

Cancer’s capitalize off their sadness. The rapper 50 Cent got shot five times yet continuously brags about his so-called immortality in his rap lyrics. Cancer’s don’t share their testimony of their hardships and struggles to be a beacon of light for others. Instead, they use it solidify their proud role as the victim. They want you to know what happened to them. They want you to know how other people went out of their way to hurt them.

Cancer is one of the most intuitive and clairvoyant zodiac signs but they rarely act on their instincts. This is what makes the Cancer so puzzling and hard to figure out.

Cancer, like Pisces and Scorpio, can vacillate between being a codependent and a narcissist. After all, they are two sides of the same coin. They can play both roles simultaneously throughout their lives. However, they are more likely to be the co-dependent than the narcissist. Pisces however, is the only water sign with more narcissistic traits.

One thing you will never, ever hear, is a Cancer taking responsibility for their pain. Instead, they say sadistic things like, “It’s my fault,” or “Everyone thinks I’m worthless.” They want pity more than they want respect. FACTS! The narcissist preys on this desire and usually strings along a Cancer for decades inflicting varying levels of abuse onto them.

How Cancers can heal from narcissistic abuse:

Cancers can use their emotions to heal from narcissistic abuse. Narcissist hate emotions. They don’t want to feel because they are numb from the abuse they endured as a child. The cancer must learn to cut off their nurturing side and feel the toxic emotions and turmoil that the narcissist in inflicting upon them. When Cancers internalize the toxic emotions caused by the narcissist, they will gather the strength to leave.

Cancers must retreat into their shell, go “No Contact,” on the narcissist and “Feel” their way out of love with the toxic narcissistic. Once the Cancer comes out of hiding, their mind and heart will be clear, precise and all-knowing. They will leave the narcissist because they will finally realize that the narc is completely incapable of reciprocating  unconditional love.

#2 Gemini

 

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Gemini’s have a child-like innocence to them that makes them somewhat naive. Narcissist prey on their naivety. The optimistic Gemini wants to see the best in others to their own detriment. Gemini’s typically don’t believe what is being shown to them in front of their own eyes until it’s too late.

Gemini is the astrological child of the zodiac. Children are often victimized because they don’t know any better. With age, Gemini’s tend to harden and become more skeptical after they’ve been burned 6 or 7 times.

However, while in their younger years, Gemini’s will often be targeted by narcissist. It is vital that Gemini’s study psychology and become keenly aware of their intuitive abilities at a very young age to prevent becoming prey to narcissism.

Gemini’s must learn to trust their inner voice and avoid situations that can take them off the course of their divine purpose. Like a child, Gemini is very curious and experimental. Their desire to wonder off and try new things makes it very easy for narcissist to take the Gemini out of her comfort zone and into new territory almost effortlessly.

Gemini is a mutable sign, which means that they are flexible and can easily adapt to any situation. The narcissist will take the Gemini on a rollercoaster ride of toxic and euphoric emotions and the Gemini will easily adapt. The Gemini must learn how to stand firm and not just go with the flow. This easy going demeanor they inherently inhabit is what get’s them in trouble.

Gemini is the child of the zodiac and is naturally care-free, avoiding major responsibility and using cleverness to get out of the binds they put themselves in. They will depend on others easily like a child and therefore become codependent in a rather innocent and naive way.

The Gemini will try to “Talk it out,” with the narcissistic using their excellent communication skills, blatant honesty and logic to resolve issues with the narcissist until they realize that trying to reason with a narcissist is like trying to nail jello to a tree. It never works. When the Gemini realizes they can’t talk out their problems with a narcissist, they will begin to slip away and prepare to leave the narc behind.

How Gemini’s can heal from narcissism:

Gemini’s are highly gifted artistically. Mostly in writing, song, lyrical composition and speech. The Gemini should write, sing, rap and create stories to heal from narcissistic abuse. Drawing and painting may help too.

Gemini’s get too caught up in the way people make them feel. One of my favorite Gemini’s Lauren Hill, had a hook on one of her songs that sums up the Gemini’s dilemma, “When it hurts so bad, why does it feel so good?”

Feelings are overrated. However, Gemini judges 80% of their relationships with others based on high chemistry and feelings which are both unsustainable, unreliable and do not determine long-term relationship success.

What the Gemini will learn from dealing with a narcissist is to be less mutable and more fixed when it comes to allowing people to come into their lives and sweep them off their feet. They will learn that when something seems to good to be true, it is usually is. The Gemini will begin to shed their naivety and look at things more skeptically. Although in their child-like minds, full of optimism, wonder, and hope, they will always be more inclined to look at the bright side of people, and the world in general.

The narcissist will hate the fact that they can never, ever steal away the happiness and joy of the Gemini. Their bright beautiful souls are there owns for the keeping. Gemini’s will bounce back from narcissistic abuse like no other Zodiac sign can.

#3 Sagittarius

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Sagittarius have big hearts. This is especially true for the women, not so much the man. Sagittarius is ruled by the planet Jupiter. The largest planet in our solar system. What’s so special about Jupiter is that not only is its size but it’s ability to eat up comets that could destroy other planets.

Jupiter gobbles up planets and large meteors to protect other planets and that is exactly what the optimistic, charismatic, fun-loving Sagittarius does on a daily basis for other people.

The narcissist gravitates towards the bubbly Sagittarius with a strong magnetic force. Narcissist are energy vampires and Sagittarius naturally possess a ton of energy the narcissist can feed upon.

The Sagittarius will give and give until it dawns on them that they are being taken advantage of.

When the Sagittarius realizes they are being taken for a ride, the Sagittarius will take action. Sagittarius is a mutable fire sign which they can easily adapt and handle change. Most Sagittarius will confront the narcissist directly with cutting words that will unmask the narcissist.

At that point, the Sagittarius is aware of the narcissist game and she will begin to enact revenge or leave altogether. Leaving will be very hard for her and it is likely to be drawn out for several years.

She will cheat, fight back, inflict abuse and still continue to love the narcissist because of her inability to see a negative situation for exactly what it is.

The Sagittarius optimism can blind her. The Narcissist uses her positive attitude as a tool to keep her hoping and wishing things will be better.

Sagittarius love the idea of love and they get blindsided by the fairytale instead of paying attention to the nightmare that is unfolding in front of them. They love affection, attention, and validation.

Sagittarius needs to feel secure in a relationship. They do whatever they can to solidify that security. The narcissist uses this against them and dangles a carrot in front of the Sag face just to enjoy the chase.

A narcissist cannot possess a negative, overly critical person. This is why narcissist never gets very far with Virgo’s. Although Virgo’s make up some of the most famous comedians in the world, they have a critical eye that can see the flaws in a person or relationship almost immediately. That is what protects the Virgo. The Sagittarius will benefit from a Virgo friend or parent who can help them gather the strength to leave the narcissist for good. 

It’s simple. By using their mutable gifts to transcend beyond the pain of abuse and turn it into power and courage to move on. 

#4 Aries 

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If you look up the definition of codependency in an online dictionary, a picture of an Aries female will appear.

Aries put love over EVERYTHING. This is both an extraordinary gift and a life-altering curse.

Aries is the ride or die chick the narcissist dreams of possessing. She loves unconditionally. She forgives easily because like a good little codependent she takes the blame for everything the narcissist does to her.

“Maybe I should of lost weight and he wouldn’t have cheated,” Aries says things like that. They will blame their mother, their best friend and even their child for abuse caused by the narcissist just so they can hold on to their relationship for dear life!

Aries is the first sign of the Zodiac. Their astrological age is the infant. It is scientifically proven that infants need love, touch, and affection to survive and thrive.

Aries needs love to survive. Literally! They are pure, innocent, adorable and incredibly open to learning with a spark of curiosity, wonder and genius.

Aries are blessed with being both highly intelligent and artistic. I know, it’s not fair. But who could be mad at them, they are like cute, tiny little infants that we want to hold close and spoil.

Aries loves to be spoiled and the narcissist will love-bomb the Aries and completely sweep her off of her feet in the honeymoon stage of the relationship. The Aries will fall in love fast and furious with the narcissist.

When he begins to show his true colors, the Aries would rather live in denial than face the truth that they got played. The narcissist had his mask on and now it’s off. The Aries continues to believe it’s her fault and she spends every moment trying to figure out what she did wrong and why all of a sudden she is unworthy of his love.

Aries is a Cardinal, fire signs so they will confront the narcissist directly with no filters. However, they will never get the truth. Aries are raw and honest individuals and they can’t quite comprehend why they don’t get direct answers from narcissist when they ask them direct questions.

The Aries will react hostile and in some cases even violently to the narcissistic abuse. The problem is she won’t take corrective action. She only reacts emotionally, not strategically. The narcissist is able to play her like a string because of it.

Corrective action is leaving the narcissist. She won’t leave easily. It will take years or even decades of abuse for her to gather the courage to leave someone she loves because she truly believes she needs this man to survive. Expect the police to be called often because Aries is confrontational.

She may do something out of anger to retaliate against her abuser that could land her in prison. She will make the mistake of neglecting her kids, her friends, her family and her health to be with the man she loves. There are no boundaries. Her harshest lesson is that love is NOT sacrifice. Love is a mutual exchange of energy, respect, honesty, and effort.

How can Aries heal from narcissistic abuse?

Aries is a leader. She is a natural born go-getter. If she summons up her determination to leave the narcissist, she can leave without hesitation for good. She has the power to never look back. People gravitate to her fire, she is a warmth comfort to many on a cold night. There are worthy people waiting to receive her love with total devotion and reciprocity.

If you have a sun or moon sign in any of the signs above, be strong and be brave. Do not let your love and light be taken for granted. It is because you have so much of it, those deprived of it, purposely seek you out.

By Janell Hihi Copyright@2017