If It’s Meant to Be it Will Be or If You Want It Go Get It?

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I believe when people say, “If it’s meant to be it will be,” they use it as a cliche’ cop-out.

It’s a way for people who refuse to grow and admit the truth to rationalize everything in life from break ups, getting fired, not getting a job, not closing a deal, etc.,

They get an easy out without going into depth about why they really left, how they didn’t put in enough work to keep their job or how they failed to close a deal because their weak follow up game.

Not wanting to be the bearer of bad news by just being honest with themselves and others is what keeps passive people spewing out that toxic phrase.

It’s an incredibly rude and insensitive thing to say to people who are going through hard times. No one wants to hear, “Sorry for your lose, he’s in a better place now.” After someone dies.

Like, really? How would you know if it’s a better place? Have you been there? Fuck out my face!

Or when you get divorced or have a miscarriage passive people say, “It just wasn’t meant to be.” Trying to process a loss and hearing those 6 gut wrenching words is not okay.

Instead say something like, “I am so sorry, I am here if you need anything,” Is more socially acceptable.

Saying, “Well, it just wasn’t meant to be” is a positive indication of a person who lacks personal responsibility. Instead of just saying I chose the wrong partner or I was always late to work because I never planned ahead, is being honest with yourself and others.

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It’s not that it wasn’t meant to be, you just didn’t want it bad enough. And that’s okay. Let’s just be adults and keep it real. Miss me with that tired ass phrase lazy people use to dodge responsibility.

Recently, I wrote an article regarding why I hate passive, beta males.

Men who confuse chasing with pursuing, and have major insecurities that give them a timid and hesitant demeanor that most woman I’ve surveyed find very unattractive.

This article is somewhat of a general follow up. I would like to pose this question to my readers:

Are you more likely to say If it’s meant to be it will be?  or Are you more likely to use the phrase, If you want it go get it?”

If you are more likely to say “If it’s meant to be it will be,” You take a more passive and reserved approach to life in general. This is not a bad thing. It just means you believe in the universe, fate, the flow and what is meant to be yours will fall into your lap.

This fate based approach to life has its pros and cons.

You may not be very good in sales. Ambitious people don’t believe if it’s meant to be it will be. They just manifest and make things happen.

Similar to people who complain about being single but don’t take initiative to go out and meet people. They believe the right person will come when it’s meant for them to come and they don’t have to put in any effort.

This doesn’t mean they beat a dead horse. It means they do the work to show interest, build and develop and if it all falls apart they are not discouraged. Go getters get up and try again, improving their approach and technique. They don’t sulk in resentment and self-pity.

A go getter will never be left contemplating the question, “What if I did more?” or “What if I showed her that I cared in more ways?” Nah. Assertive, ambitious people try and exercise all possibilities before giving up.

That’s why when they walk away they are not sad and depressed. They feel good because they did everything they could. A beta male or fateful person walks away before the chapter is finished.

Chasing someone is pursuing someone who is showing you zero interest. They constantly cancel dates, respond to text messages 24 to 48 hours later, and when they finally meet with you they are inattentive, late and mentally absent. Go getters don’t pursue people who show zero interest. They move on.

Go getters want a return on their investment. Go with the flow, passive people want the other person to do all the work. That’s the fundamental difference.

The go getter at work follows up on leads daily, the passive, “If it’s meant to be it will be,” individual calls the lead once, never follows up and doesn’t care.

They don’t “force,” sales. Whatever the hell that is supposed to mean. Their tiny paychecks is proof of their dependence on the Universe to deliver. Sad!

Passive individuals may hold back when they should move forward boldly and confidently. Taking initiative to them makes them feel like they are being pushy and pressuring other people.

Passive people easily go along with other’s agenda’s because other people’s efforts makes them feel secure.

The major issue with this approach is you may base your efforts on the other persons efforts that your involved with.

If they don’t compliment you, then you won’t compliment them. If they don’t text you first, you won’t text them ever again. If they don’t ask you to hang out, you won’t ask them to hang out.

If they don’t go down on you, then you won’t go down on them. Sex with passive people sucks! They are too dependent on what you do and how much you show you care before they make any moves on their own.

It’s borderline codependent. Yet, they think taking a backseat to everything all the time makes them appear strong and confident. Nah, they look like pussies.

If you want it go get it!

The freedom in this phrase is undeniable. Do we get everything we go after? No! But do we learn a ton in the process? Yes!

The fruit of knowledge is in the journey not in the destination.

The number one regret on the death beds of many is that they regret they didn’t follow their dreams and love harder!

Who wants to live their lives everyday knowing that they are pre-destined to a certain fate and they can’t do anything about it but let it play out?

Not me! That’s a delusional way to live. Free will and choice does play a part to a certain extent. The only time it doesn’t is when people are faced with systematic oppression and that’s another blog.

They didn’t pay enough attention, show enough affection and they didn’t risk enough to win! They never reconciled differences, resolved grudges nor did they have the courage to ask those they’ve hurt for forgiveness.

Nothing risked, nothing gained. Is your soul’s bank account drained?

What approach do you take and why? Please comment below, “like” and share.

Namaste

J. Hihi Copyright@2017

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The Story of O.J by Jay Z is Not That Deep. A Quick Fact Check Tells You Another Story.

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The Story of O.J or the Story of a Hypocrite?

Jay-Z, the Sagittarius born rapper, and businessman certainly knows how to make the right moves to earn an abundance of revenue. However, just because he knows how to make money doesn’t earn him my devotion or respect.

If you’re praising people based on how much money they make, without fully investigating how they make their money, please check your morals and values at the door!

I have purchased almost all Jay Z’s music in the past, including a recent membership to his music subscription service Tidal just to listen to his newest album 444.

Of course, there was a lot of hype around the album based on its political overtones and unsolicited business advice. But after watching the phenomenal  Yvette Carnell Show on YouTube, my original thought that the album is okay but not great, was confirmed.

I realized that the messages popular artist like Jay-Z put out into the mainstream creeps into the psyche of our youth giving them ideas and beliefs about how the world works. The most popular reaction to Jay Z’s 444 album is, “Jay-Z is giving away million dollar game.” Ummm no! Not really.

Jay-Z tells all the hustlers out there to save the money they make dealing drugs to the people in their community, destroying lives in the process, and then buy the neighborhood and rinse it. When has this ever happened?

So basically the only way to earn capital as a black man is to sell drugs. This is partially true since the average black American has NO access to wealth or capital.

The question is who are these drug dealers selling drugs to? Your cousin, your auntie, and your brother. Destroying the lives of the children and families in their communities in the process.

I guess it’s justifiable because the drug dealer will eventually buy all the property in the community, so the lives destroyed by drugs is a fragment you can charge to the game.

Y’all stay woke. This is buffoonery.

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However, the chances of getting caught and thrown into a prison that is warehousing millions of black men is very high. And the drug game is dirty you may not make it out alive.

Instead of encouraging us to work hard to change our politics so that we have access to wealth, Jay-Z recommends illegal activity. How is that enlightening?

“You wanna know what’s more important than throwin’ away money at a strip club? Credit
You ever wonder why Jewish people own all the property in America? This how they did it” Jay Z

Jews are mostly white. In addition, Jews received billions of dollars in reparations from Germany for the Holocaust. They moved to the United States and used that money to invest. While investing they received the privilege of being white which gave them access to capital and non-predatory lending from banks.

Oh wait, The United States Federal Reserve is owned by the Jewish Rothschild family. Of course, in a well-knit Jewish community, obtaining credit shouldn’t be a problem. Jay-Z is basically saying that African American, descendants of slaves have the same access to credit and capital as Jews.

We don’t even have communities. We are redlined, gentrified and locked out at every angle. Our neighborhoods are filled with liquor stores, Pay Day Loan shops and Fried fish and chicken joints owned by Arabs. 

How can we compete with Jewish people who have thriving communities?

This couldn’t be further from the truth considering the fact that Jews received over $100 billion dollars in reparations from the German Government. How much in reparations did African American slave survivors and their descendants receive from The United States Government? NOTHING.

Nothing for slavery, and nothing for 100 years of the domestic terrorism of Jim Crow. Comparing blacks to Jews is like comparing Organic Apples to a Processed Twinkie. Not even in the same food group.

That’s how the Jews did it. They received reparations and they are mainly white!

Jay Z please do some research before spewing out lyrical bullshit. It’s an insult to my intelligence and the “woke” African American community as a whole.

Before you internalize a lyric from any rap song, fact check it with data. Just because Jay-Z said it doesn’t mean it’s true.

Jay-Z is capitalizing off the trend of consciousness to appear awakened. Meanwhile, Rap Artist like Nas and Tupac were talking about the real issues affecting our communities 20 plus years ago. That being said, Jay-Z had to reach the age of 50 to have even a little common sense? He hasn’t even reached the peak of his maturity. Only monetarily he is succeeding and I’m not shallow enough to believe that his ability to make money somehow makes him the enlightened one.

That being said, Jay-Z had to reach the age of 50 to have even a little common sense? He hasn’t even reached the peak of his maturity. Only monetarily he is succeeding and I’m not shallow enough to believe that his ability to make money somehow makes him the enlightened one.

What’s so profound about suggesting we invest in residential and commercial real estate? Every day, millions of people are solicited to go to a real estate investing seminar to learn how to make money investing in properties.

Just because we hear about great investment ideas, doesn’t mean we have the means to cooperate in those opportunities.

Being that I have a background in mortgage and real estate, Jay-Z stating he should have purchased a building but he didn’t, and now he regrets it because it’s 5 times the amount it was worth 10 years ago, is not a profound lyric to me.

Jay-Z has built substantial wealth. He now has the means to buy buildings in impoverished neighborhoods. He can use his capital to restore at least one black community. Why isn’t he? Unless these efforts are underway and I am not aware of it, please enlighten me in the comments below.

Plenty of African Americans have dreams they can’t manifest. Not because they lack the education or work ethic, but because they lack the “access” to capital, social connections and generational wealth, to do so.

In addition, if you’re an optimistic entrepreneur who just happens to be African American and you got hyped up with motivation to finally apply for that SBA business loan, please keep in mind that the SBA only approved 1% of loans submitted by black entrepreneurs in 2016.

Good luck!

Check out an article I wrote a few months ago that explains that black Americans start more businesses than any other race in America but lack the capital to turn them from single sole proprietor firms to larger scale corporations. 

We’ve always had the drive to strive towards entrepreneurship but there are systematic obstacles, Jay-Z fails to acknowledge in this song that hinders our success.

Jay-Z is doing a great job promoting “self-motivation” and entrepreneurship” while he conveniently leaves out the data that totally opposes his so-called profound and enlightening advice.

If you don’t have a million dollars to buy a painting, the lyric about how art appreciates should mean nothing to you in your everyday struggle.

And that poses the next question, what class of people is Jay-Z giving this advice to? Certainly not me, my aunt Lisa who makes only $40,000 a year or my cousin Joe who served his time in prison but can’t find a job with a decent wage to support himself.

It appears Jay-Z is giving advice to other rappers who he criticizes are wasting their money they earned on advances from record labels they will have to pay back. Nothing he says applies to my everyday life. After some investigating, that lyric is contradictory due to the fact that Jay-Z himself gives his own artist advances.

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Y’all out here still takin’ advances, huh?
Me and my niggas takin’ real chances, uh
” Jay-Z

Jay-Z gave Kanye West a very large advance for exclusively putting his album on Tidal to help Tidal gain more subscribers. So Jay-Z is giving out advances to artist but in the same breath, he is criticizing artist who take advances from record labels?

An article on TMZ sums it up perfectly:

“The $20 million Jay-Z  fronted Kanye West was NOT a gift — as Jay insinuated on his album 4:44 — it was all part of Live Nation’s deal with ‘Ye.

Sources with direct knowledge of Jay and Kanye’s business relationship tell TMZ, the $20 million was a payout advance which could also cover expenses — including the floating stage — for Kanye’s “Saint Pablo Tour.”  The money is sometimes used to cover various production costs and staff.

It’s actually standard for artists at Kanye’s level to get such an advance.  It’s part of the deal.

Jay certainly made it sound like he and Roc Nation gifted Kanye the dough.  In the song, “Kill Jay Z” Jay raps …

“But you got hurt because you did cool by ‘Ye // You gave him 20 million without blinkin’ // He gave you 20 minutes on stage, f*** was he thinkin’? // ‘F*** wrong with everybody?’ is what you sayin’ // But if everybody’s crazy, you’re the one that’s insane.”

I find it hard to have high interest in music I can’t relate to that is based on hypocritical and fictitious dialogue. 

As Antonio Moore said, “Data matters!” Check out his excellent analysis on YouTube. He is an Attorney, a writer and a real soldier in the struggle.

By Janell Hihi Copyright@2017

 

 

 

Keepers of The Light

 

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The suppression of light denies it’s existential right to shine upon what hides in fear of being highlighted by that blazing, neon fury of getting to the bottom of surfaces masked with theory, conditioning.

Slow absorbing particles of articles that lurk in the darkness, making my cocoa into chocolate, as unpure as the hormone filled milk mixed to make your Milk Way so delicious. Is good really good?

She plays hide in seek behinds systems, cloaked in robes, sending men to warehouses to be tucked away into that oblivion which perverts my black into something sinister.

She lies naked in soiled beds with me, baptizing in my sweat but she won’t draw her weaponry of privilege to gain me even a spectacle of opportunity.

Her supremacy comes before her God, but she goes to church faithfully. I get superficial light from her that feeds my ego and rapes my soul.

I craved solar light infused with fire, youthfully riding the earth to reach the g-spot of my equator. Not the dim light she emitted like a dying bulb in a musty basement bathroom.

Her real light is given through her vote only to her own tribe despite the fact that I make her sing in orgasm and smile from genuine giggles only a belly laugh has the nourishment to invoke.

I hoped my kindness would provoke reciprocation but she dangled my climax like a carrot in my face – and like a silly rabbit, I chase. A race without a finish line. Running in the dark without light.

Nothing about what corrupts the dark is fictitious. My black was non-mythical until they wrote the stories, attached the records and gentrified it’s habitats at the peak of it’s thriving.

Blinding light is what has us all in a chokehold, gasping for air and fighting blindly because we can’t see.

Are you among them? The keepers of the light. Who swallow it just so they don’t have to share it with others. Who sells it for shares? Who manipulates it into other knock-off forms, bootlegging life?

Who won’t use it to look beneath the 50 shades of black stacked with generations of pain plagued in each membrane of the DNA passed along like a bucket of chicken at Ray Ray’s family picnic?

What has been passed along to me is suffrage uncorrected by those who inflicted it. Point the light into the depth of my dark and swim in it until you get the nucleus of truth oceans deep, where your ancestors hid it. Truth is the treasure that awaits you to create the bridge to unification. Where you can replenish all that you have taken away from us.

By Janell Hihi @Copyright 2017

Is Fear of Failure The Root Cause of Procastination?

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After years of self-introspection, I realized I procrastinated and put off my goals and dreams because I suffered from an underlying fear of failure.

Fear of failure is a result of a lack of self-confidence and self-trust.

It’s not about how bad you want it. 

It’s about rather you believe in yourself enough to pursue it and complete it.

Consistency is a product of believing in yourself and trusting that you have the skills, knowledge, and tools to accomplish your dreams.

Consistency is believing in yourself every day and every moment. It’s doing what you said you will do regardless of the fearful thoughts that enter your mind.

If you are constantly asking yourself in the back of your mind, “What if this doesn’t work?” This means you don’t believe in yourself enough to fully execute your plan.

When these toxic and negative thoughts creep up, we procrastinate as a result. Sometimes we procrastinate to review our plan repeatedly for possible errors.

Then we procrastinate by making ourselves busy with other things to avoid executing our plan. We use circumstances as an excuse for lack of confidence and fear or failure.

Procrastination is a sign of mental imbalance. 

Either you are pursuing a dream that you are not truly passionate about or you lack confidence and fear that it will fail.

It takes maturity to admit that you tried something and you were driven by superficial, egoic outcomes.

If you pursue a dream that can only earn you money but not divine happiness, procrastination will manifest in pursuit of a false dream.

So the next time you find yourself procrastinating, ask yourself the 5 questions below:

  1. Am I afraid to fail? If so why?
  2. Am I pursuing a goal or a dream that I am truly passionate about?
  3. Do I believe in myself enough to be consistent?
  4. How can I increase my self-confidence? Will Counseling help? A life coach? or Furthering my education?
  5. What do I expect to achieve mentally and emotionally if I accomplish this goal?

 

By Janell Hihi Copyright@2017

Aquarius Have a Misconception of Intimacy.

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I am known to criticize the downfalls of every sign in the Zodiac and you’d be surprised by how much hate mail I receive from various people who claim I am attacking their sign.

I also receive emails and comments from people who are in complete agreeance with my character analysis of each sign. Regardless, I haven’t clearly pointed out the flaws in my own Zodiac sign.

What the hell is wrong with Aquarius?

Aquarius is fixed and detached. This means we are stubborn and we do not easily conform to anyone or anything. This may appear as a strength but it could breed disloyalty and an inability to commit.

Speaking of commitment, Aquarius feel that if they commit to someone or something completely, they sacrifice their freedom. As an Aquarius, we always think we have to trade in our freedom to be in a relationship.

Aquarius are deliberately ambiguous in our intent because we have no idea what we want most of the time. We just want the freedom to want what we want when we want it without giving an explanation.

Did that confuse you? Well, that’s what Aquarius tend to do…. confuse people.

The lesson all Aquarius must learn is that there is a unique freedom within love itself. Love is freedom. Intimate love is not restrictive, it’s the opposite. It gives us wings.

I talk a good game, and I am aware of my dark, shadow characteristics. However, it is nearly impossible to take my own advice. I can’t comprehend my aversion to closeness, my fear of falling so deeply in love I think I will lose myself.

Aquarius are low-key obsessed with themselves. Our deepest fear is being so entrenched in love, our work, humanitarian efforts, goals, friendships and various projects will fail to be accomplished.

Aquarius doesn’t want to be lost in anything but themselves. That is slightly narcissistic.

Aquarius always remain friendly, yet objective. Open minded, but critical, adventurous but cautious.

We don’t rush to fall in love but we rush into everything else! We hate slowness. We think fast, talk fast, walk fast…

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We are the yin and the yang and there are some Zodiac signs that find that characteristic annoying, indecisive and contradicting.

We remain in the middle, unattached, refusing to take any side. Except when it comes to human rights and equality. Our passion for life and protecting other’s is always made crystal clear.

However, when it comes to love, we harbor a misconception of intimacy. I must admit, love makes me claustrophobic. I dread the responsibility of “Making someone else happy,” and I’d much rather be in a less restrictive relationship where we love each other deeply but there is more of an element of freedom. Not the freedom to cheat, but the freedom to continue to explore our true nature.

Friendship is how Aquarius love. We express our love as a friend and we recognize love only through friendship. When friendship, respect and that air freedom we need is missing, we run away from love.

Aquarius want closeness but they also want freedom. Aquarius want commitment, but they also want ample free time to continue to check off items on their lifelong bucket list.

Unlike any other Zodiac sign, we are not afraid to be alone. The problem is, we get attached to our aloneness and have a difficult time coming out of it.

Aquarius who are single for a long time will have a very hard time adjusting to a relationship.

Aquarius is fixed. We are controlling. Not overtly, but in a manipulative and secretive way. 

Aquarius make awesome sales reps and con artist. We have a mind that can read other’s almost instantly and use that knowledge for good or evil.

Aquarius are very attracted to intelligence. Good looks are great but a lack of intelligence, passion and drive is a COMPLETE turn off to Aquarius.

Aquarius hate strict schedules and routine. This makes it hard for us to stick to long term goals. We can be seen as less serious and unfocused. This is not true in most cases, we just do things our own way and in our own time. To maintain our obsession with freedom.

Other’s see us as weird. We do odd things because we truly are different. The problem is different is not always good.

As soon as we feel smothered, we retreat into ourselves. We get busy doing other things. We need breaks from boring routine often.

Aquarius astrological age is the 2nd childhood. We are close to Pisces, which is the oldest sign in the Zodiac. So, we are like the fun-loving grandparents who spoil their grandchildren rotten. We want to explore, play, nap, eat, and travel.

We are at that pre-elderly stage where we want to do all the things we couldn’t do because we were tied down raising our kids and working. It’s like we are in a mental retirement. This is what makes us artistic, genius and highly imaginative.

On the flipside, we can be cruel, judgment, condescending and overly critical like most people in their mid to late fifties. 

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Aquarius are inconsistent by nature and obsessed with constantly switching things up to keep things interesting. This is why we suck in relationships.

We want to be in love, but not so much in love that we are joined by the hip. We are cowards who run away from closeness with others. If it get’s too deep, we swim to the shore where it’s safe.

We use humor to soothe our pain. Hey, it’s better than using drugs! Sometimes we over do it with joking and don’t know when to stop. Joking when we should be serious. We like to “Appear,” as though we are not hurt, upset with the direction of our lives, or lonely. We enjoy Playing when we should be focused. Daydreaming when we should be working.

We crave change but we are fixed and stubborn. Therefore we are too comfortable in our ways at times and this stunts our spiritual growth as the war inside of continues to rage between fear and courage.

We say things we don’t mean when were angry. We have random, built up, outburst and follow that up with the silent treatment for days or weeks on in.

We repeat ourselves and talk in circles often. Many find this annoying. Especially Scorpios and Virgos. They always point that out to me.

We try to appear too aloof because we’re afraid of rejection. Aquarius will always appear overly nonchalant and casual as a shield to protect themselves from being dependent on other’s approval or affection. It’s really sad.

Please like, share and comment if this resonates with you or an Aquarius you know.

By Janell Hihi

Copyright@2017

 

 

 

 

Chronic Depression

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Chronic depression is visiting the darkness without being able to come out of it. The tight grasp of depression becomes a consistent form of consolement to those who never met the freeing light of optimism, hope, and faith.

The darkness is very much a part of our existence as the lightness. We will vacillate between the two polarities continuously. We must understand that we should not allow ourselves to be captive to either side.

By Janell Hihi Copyright@2017

 

Chemotherapy Only Has a 2.1% Success Rate in Treating Cancer. Why Are Doctors Still Prescribing it?

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Why is it that doctors keep prescribing chemotherapy to Cancer patients when it only has a 2.1% success rate?

This makes no sense. Desperate and very ill patients take the treatment because they are often told it’s their only option.

Even worse, most medical insurance companies won’t cover alternative cancer treatments so they are stuck with a medication that has a very low success rate.

It’s similar to the predatory car dealerships that prey on people with bad credit by selling them old junkers for 7 times the price they are worth because it is the only vehicle their predatory bank will finance.

Chemotherapy is not a cure, it’s not even a viable temporary medication. It’s a profit. Doctors who subscribe Chemotherapy get massive kickbacks and drug companies continue to receive record high profits.

Yes, I understand that drug companies are in business to make a profit. But how much is too much and is it ethical?

In America today, more money is spent to treat cancer than to treat any other disease by far. In fact, according to NBC News, 100 BILLION dollars was spent on cancer drugs just last year alone…

As drug prices continue to fall under ever-increasing scrutiny, spending on cancer medicines has hit a new milestone: $100 billion in 2014.

That’s up more than 10 percent from 2013, and up from $75 billion five years earlier, according to a report published Tuesday from the IMS Institute for Healthcare Informatics.

Exactly how does the transactions for profit through chemotherapy prescriptions work? Watch the video below to find out.

The more research I conduct, the findings get more disturbing. The highest paid doctors who benefit most from chemotherapy is Oncologist.

According to the research of Steven Levitt and Stephen Dubner of Freakonomics fame, “Oncologists are some of the highest paid doctors, their average income is increasing faster than any other specialist in the medical field, and more than half their income comes from selling and administering chemotherapy.”

Yes, you read that right. Oncologists make a huge profit, as much as two-thirds of their income in some cases, from chemotherapy drugs.

Their business model is very different from other doctors because you can’t buy chemotherapy drugs at your local pharmacy.

Oncologists buy these drugs direct at wholesale prices, then they mark them up and bill the insurance companies. This legal profiting on drugs by doctors is unique to the cancer treatment world.

They’re making money off the drugs that they insist you take to save your life. That’s a HUGE conflict of interest. They’re selling you the drugs and charging you for the privilege of putting them in your body. No other doctor can do that.

By Janell Hihi @copyright 2017