The Number 1 symptom you’re settling for less!
You feel like you’re fighting an uphill battle.
“None of us should expect to tiptoe through tulips all day long, but if you spend most of your time trying to fix, alter, or cope with a situation, there is a good chance it’s not the right one for you. Joy is a natural outcome of being where you should be. So if you’re constantly struggling to feel good, it’s probably time for a change.” Iyanla Vanzant
The saying holds true for a reason, “Never settle for less than what you deserve,”
Settling for less than what you want in a relationship leads to inner hostility, anger and resentment.
Holding a vision of the type of relationship you want but accepting less in reality creates conflicting inner dialogue that will eventually sabotage your relationship.
If you find yourself breaking up and making up with your partner. You’re settling. Oscillating between settling and temporarily breaking up to justify your need to not settle just to take them back and settle again.
What’s worse is feeling self esteem drop a few notches like a plane that was cruising but is now experiencing violent turbulence. Why is that? Because we failed to live up to the promises we made to ourselves by compromising with others.
Whatever we settled for will permanently end eventually end because it’s not what we wanted to begin with.
It’s far better to never start sub-par relationships by passing on them altogether rather than creating more pain and heartache by lowering standards to satisfy the temporary emotion of neediness.
All that’s needed is patience, faith and the ability to say no thanks!
If you order a steak but the waiter comes back and offers you beef flavored Ramen Noodles instead, will you accept it just to be nice and avoid conflict? Will you sacrifice what you want to give others what they want?
Can others easily talk you out of what you want? Are your standards easily lowered to appease others? Or do you think you can turn noodles into steak by forcing people to change?
Do you have the courage and patience to wait for your steak?
Sure, your stomach is growling with ravaging hunger and you really want to eat. However, you have to decide if instant gratification is better than long term fulfillment.
Steak or Noodles. You Decide!